How do I get out of depression?
There are so many answers to this question. As someone who has tried virtually every approach to depression – with varying degrees of success – I’d say the short answer is that trying to become “better” is a depressing task all on its own. You try a thing, you keep your head above water for a bit, and then the depression hits again and you feel more hopeless than ever.
A better approach than attempting to being “saved from” depression is to find what mitigates your symptoms and arm yourself with an arsenal of solutions. Chances are you’re never going to be completely free of depression, but there are so many ways to make it easier. My experience is as follows:
Antidepressants: Obviously this is the medically-preferred route, but in my opinion it probably shouldn’t be the first thing you try. Side effects tend to be undesirable. I’m not going to get into the specifics because there’s loads of data on antidepressants on Quora and elsewhere already.
Nootropics: There are a host of experimental substances with less tendency towards receptor downregulation/upregulation than traditional antidepressants. In some cases there are promising studies showing evidence that these substances can actually restore neurochemical homeostasis. If your depression is drug-induced, for instance, have a look at BPC-157. If it is not, more traditional nootropics like piracetam or noopept may help. Be aware, however, that these substances do not have a long history of human use. There’s no telling what they may do in the long term. Proponents believe they are ultimately beneficial, but do your own research and come to your own conclusions. I’ve been depressed since birth, so my own experience is primarily with noopept, which I found to be very effective. It must be cycled, however. I use it for two months at a time, and then take a month off.
Kambo: Here’s an interesting one. Kambo is a venomous medicine produced by a tree frog native to the Amazon rainforest. The frog secretes a waxy substance administered by burning away the top layer of skin. If administered correctly, these burns can heal without scarring. The venom will likely make you pretty ill for about an hour or so, but there are a range of beneficial compounds that contribute to a feeling of immense well-being in the days following. As the medicine has antiviral and antibiotic compounds as well as powerful natural opiate receptor agonists, it has both acute and long-term benefits. It is specifically purported to be good for depression, and it virtually saved me from the midst of a seriously deep depressive spiral. Kambo practitioners exist throughout the US. I seriously recommend looking into it if you have no contraindications.
Nutrition and exercise: Nobody wants to hear about these solutions. They’re no fun. But, myself, I have found that eating a raw food diet essentially cured me of my depression for the duration that I was on it. Mind you, I didn’t stick with it indefinitely. Raw food takes a lot of time to prepare, and the ingredients can be expensive. Nonetheless, nothing else I have tried has been equally effective, not even antidepressants. Your body is a machine that will run poorly if not well-oiled, your mind is the most critical component of that machine, and potato chips don’t count as good oil.
Lifestyle: Last but certainly not least, the origin of depression is not always chemical in nature. We live in a society that prioritizes financial gain over happiness, a culture that presumes money can buy happiness. I’m not going to write a whole diatribe against modern society here, but I am going to suggest that maybe you should question things you’ve been taught not to question. Maybe you should even change things about your life that your friends or family might consider reckless such as your career or your place of residency. I’m not saying you should be impulsive or foolhardy, just perceptive. Notice your feelings, notice your thoughts, and notice feelings and thoughts that are not your own.
Meditation: Ok, I lied about lifestyle being last, but it segues nicely into this topic. If you suffer from depression, you have probably felt like a slave to your mental processes, or that your mind is your enemy. Meditation – free of any dogma or religion – is at its core a means of metacognition. With a strong daily meditation practice, you can have negative thoughts without being consumed by them, and you can feel difficult emotions without spiraling into dark thought patterns. This isn’t a road to go alone. Should you decide to pursue this route, find a teacher and be diligent. When your depression comes and your mind turns against you, you will not be unarmed.
I’ve never answered anything on here and I don’t know if anyone will even see this, but I hope it helps someone. These are real tools with very serious value. They may not cure you of instability in the long term, but they just may bring relief when you need it the most.
Trust me, you don’t want to get rid of your depression (though you do want to shut it off). It serves a critical purpose, and you might even die without it. Let me explain.
Depression is a natural human emotion. It tells us that we are carrying too much emotional pain, and that we need to resolve some of it. If we don’t, the depression intensifies, just as any other emotion does if we try to ignore it.
To shut off the depression, you treat the emotional pain you are carrying.
Picture it this way: inside your brain is a reservoir. That’s where it stores emotional pain that has not healed. When it fills up, and starts to overflow , it triggers depression. Depression is the flashing red alert of the nervous system.
Where does the emotional pain come from? Your past, and/or your present. If you’re in a horrible, emotionally abusive marriage right now, that brings emotional pain, and the pain brings depression. If you were in a horrible, emotionally abusive marriage two years, ago, and still haven’t healed, that’s pain from your past.
But notably, a lot of people’s emotional pain traces back to childhood: abuse, neglect, mistreatment, bullying, family instability and the like.
If you want your depression to shut off, that’s what you have to treat. Therapy is the best approach, if you get a good therapist.
Don’t get confused when you hear people talking about depression as a medical disease, genetic problem or “chemical imbalance.” People who focus on those things aren’t exactly wrong, but they tend to confuse cause and effect. Others are so dead set against confronting their well-buried emotional pain that they insist they don’t have any. Only, if they work with you on hunting for it, it usually turns up.
Another thing that happens is many people are blind to being mistreated, because for them, the way they grew up was normal to them, and they didn’t recognize mistreatment for what it was.
My experience is that people who fight hunting for and treating emotional pain do not tend to get better, though they often find temporary relief on antidepressants. People who find the pain and heal it (drain the reservoir) tend to not only lose the depression, but become happy, and amazed it is possible to feel so good.
I’d stop here, but I want to mention that after posting the above information, someone usually chimes in with a comment about how their case is different. They are often quite angry, even indignant. It’s impossible to assess their situation online, of course, but I have seen plenty of these people in real life, and again and again, I find that they are clinging to their diagnosis because it has come to define who they are. If they are open-minded enough to talk with me for a while, I can usually spot where they’re making errors in their thinking, and tripping themselves up. (In the event I can’t, I’ll certainly refer them for appropriate treatment, but that hasn’t happened yet.)
My insights are not some sort of a personal crusade. They come from years watching the differences in behavior between people who get well, and people who don’t. They also come from working with people who are severely “stuck,” and finding a way—together—to turn their situation around.
This is the way psychology’s of depression is heading. If you’re chronically depressed, I think it’s too important to ignore.
Thanks for the question!
Well I don’t think that “Depression” is not just an easy word, and at the same way it’s not an impossible thing to fight.”Depression “ word had huge background which comes in everyone’s life but it’s hard for some people to throw it out. If anyone commits something just because of depression ,it’s abysmal to judge their mental capabilities totally, even our own five fingers doesn’t seem same then how do different people look at the same issue and react in a same manner..???
But anyway breakaway from the depression and a fray against the depression is not much harder than what we think about it.
There are many ways to explain about this particular thing but today I’ve watched “ Saand ki aankh “ movie starring Bhumi pednekar and Tapsee pannu which is really amazing movie and the performances of both the stars are just out of our imaginations.
saand ki aankh means bull’s eye which is a movie based on the real life of chandro tomar and prakashi tomar who are known for great sharpshooters.
There are many people who are good at shooting then what’s the greatness about these people..? I think this is the question you may think but the story is both the women started their shooting at the age of 65 without letting their family know about that because they are the women who know only work of household and they don’t know even the signature of them.Their family consists of more than twenty members and they have to do work all the day and their house looks like a mini school.
They started learning shooting when their grand children are afraid to learn shooting in front of boys and these women come along with them to give them some courage but in the mean while they get to know that they are good at that and started practicing shooting.
Slowly they started participating in tournaments secretly by telling various reasons each time to their family and they won many medals in every tournament, their grand daughters too start learning from them, they appeared in media and in newspapers.Initially everyone started laughing at them because everyone felt like they are so old that they don’t have enough grip over gun and they laugh at their attire, but after watching their play everyone amazed and there was a huge response from everyone.
Everything was going fine but when they were selected for international level and they had to leave the village about 15 days , they don’t know what to say to the people in the house, the role of men in their houses had great impact on the lives of people , they felt like they will agree when they get to know about their achievements but that leads to many struggles and distractions in their life.
Soon they arise and struggled a lot at least for their grand daughters future and made everyone to accept their grand daughter’s participation in place of our country and finally one of their grand daughter won silver in shooting and brings great reputation for our country whereas these two women remained in our country as a great people who brings change in the lives of them and in their children and society and finally it’s a happy ending..!
These are the real women who are known as shooter dadis, belongs to a small village in uttar pradesh who have great determination to do anything and proved that age is just a number to our body but not to our work, spirit and thoughts.
The main point behind explaining all these things is , if the two women think that we’ve already crossed much of our life and we’re tired of everything , already we are facing so many difficulties in our life , we don’t want to welcome new problems then they don’t have achieved much. They believe that spirit is enough to reach anything and there’s always a way for the impossible way too. Practically they are in their last years still they have such a great hopes for their life as well as for their children, we should have much more fantasies and bigger dreams than them.Taste the flavor of each and every bit of our life either it’s sweetness or hotness.
Depression is just like a sudden guest , we may welcome it unknowingly but we’ve to show our house that’s our inner heart is much stronger and should warn it that we’re strong enough to deal with that. It should feel fearful to come for the next time.
Thanks for reading.
Support from your social circle is usually the first step. If that doesn’t help and the depression gets in the way of you living your life like you used to, consider paying a visit to a psychologist. You’ll get some form of psychological evaluation done and you may be recommended for psychotherapy and perhaps for a visit to a psychiatrist.
Now the psychiatrist’s job typically is to prescribe meds. From my experience these definitely can help, but it would be naive to think that just taking your pills will turn your life around – it won’t. And if you decide to drop them eventually, you won’t find it a pleasurable experience. Plus they have their side effects, some quite depressing on their own.
Psychotherapy typically involves longer sessions spent with a (hopefully) trained professional, whose goal basically is to get to the bottom of what’s troubling you – the ruminating thoughts that keep coming back throughout the day. You will likely feel great relief during these sessions, if for no other reason than having another person’s undivided attention entirely for yourself. It’s important that you get something out of it though – make sure you find out what the trigger for your depression was and how to deal with it in the future. Things like deaths in the family, break ups, lay offs etc. can happen again – learning coping strategies will help and a psychotherapist will teach you these.
Since you didn’t provide any details, it could be that your depression was brought about by a general feeling of worthlessness. This is a lot more difficult to cope with, since in this case the depression is triggered by small things that happen daily and it thus never fully goes away until you learn to accept yourself for who you are. Further psychological assessment at this stage could reveal mental or personality disorders that get in the way of therapy, though again from my experience most psychologists and psychotherapists will not address this at all.
Also, having a good safety net comprising understanding parents, relatives, friends, colleagues etc. is a great asset. There are times when all you need is to let it out – and anyone willing to genuinely listen to you without calling you a crybaby or an attention seeker will do the trick.
Whether you decide to go through any of the above or not, you’ll eventually see your depression symptoms wane and you’ll be back to your old self. It won’t be a forgettable experience either way but what you’ll get out of it will count – and it will be for the better if you make it so. Best of luck.
Get a little hope
Walking on a remote, desolate country lane. The sufferer has to wear night vision glasses and can see nothing, unless something alive, animate, comes into vision alarmingly,withthrough ultra violet glasses . The little country lane is deserted, and colourless. You must walk for miles -not knowing how far..The compulsary night vision glasses enforce sight of animate objects in the ultra- violet , defined by heat. Horrifying ,creatures, bright, startling, green, swirl, with violent intent, personifications of inner woes screaming at you. Alone, and petrified you walk. The lane that may never end. Monsters, stir and wait to fly out and haunt you. Fear of them intensifies. You know they will be somewhere, no rest-bite. Anxiety and fear increasing, you want this to end. You could be here forever. In most cases, the light comes over the horizon. Normality can be restored.Although residual intense, fear and suffering remain. Moreover you will return to this world again.
The next dark walk begins, hopeless, and in despairring you are forced to wear the night vision goggles once more.SUDDENLY,whist Wwalking in terror, a familiar voice is saying her name. He takes her hand and says:“I am here darling. I found the road you walk on, I will walk with you. You cannot see me, nor I you.,I am not forced to wear goggles , monsters or memories you see.But I am walking next to you,holding your hand.not leaving you until we reach your destination.I have goose pimples and watering eyes, feeling the joy and relief your hand would bring , my closest friend and lover walking the road of my depression and fear with me. You do not have to wear the glasses, nor see any of the hellish foes surrounding, but this person holding your hand, walking along aside you offers hope and comfort in a world you cannot see..You are that person!To access the road must you must feel the detachment and loneliness. Be there for her as you would if she had been in an accident, or lost her memory, never try to wear the glasses but to find the road is enough for her, so much more than you could ever know. You will never know either -I hope. Empathise- listen to her explanations,and descriptions. Ask questions, you will find a picture in your head of the road and you can ask her what her journey of depression, at its worst,feels like -that way she knows you are there with her. When the darkness lifts tell her you will be there next time, and gather more insight into her journey, she may not have a scene to visualise and you could paint a setting with her, make it both of yours, imagination and perceptions, built on her descriptions. I hope that helps, one thing more- whilst offering to understand she may rebuke or tell you are wrong. But persevere, use your own way of ensuring her you will be with her when she is forced back into this world. If nothing else, ensure her you are not one of the green monsters she must confront on her walk..You can feel the wind and hear the trees http://rustle.Be her ears and her senses, share with her antyhing you can,and let her trust you-make her believe you want to be on that journey with her. (if you don’t be honest about it),
Imagine the joy in hearing her tell you she knows you are there with her. That would be the most wonderful gift you could give, and receive. You can learn about it, read accounts of other sufferers. Understand, believe, listen and read Resources and Information. donot judge, or be upset if you feel you are not getting anywhere. You can do no more; but a hell of a lot less. She will know you want to be there- if you do. Give security and trust. Walk the walk. You can find it, just by hoping. James Anderson
Depression is a phase of life as well as mind where you are so much dug into a negative situation that it becomes difficult to get out of that phase.
I believe It’s not a choice but it’s a place in life where you go when you feel there is no other choice.
1.Whatever people around you will say won’t have any effect on you when you are in depression
2.you just want to be alone and don’t want any companionship.
3.You forget to find positive in things rather everything seems negative to you.
But this happens when you are very deep in depression and find no meaning in anything.
1: As we know prevention is better than cure hence try to identify the beginning of a depression. Say if something is haunting you try to find a solution by yourself and if not try to talk to people around you they may be your parents, friends or anyone you find comfortable talking with.
2.If you have been dragged into depression one thing that can change everything is meditation. You will find it difficult at first but then when you keep on doing it you will feel relaxed and you will not make any rash decisions. You will be able to think clearly.
3.If this doesn’t help try going for a therapist. Going to a therapist will be helpful because firstly they will be strangers and you could talk to them about any of your problems. It won’t be revealed because of attorney client privilege pact. Also since they are experienced they would have dealt with several situation and have knowledge , hence they can handle your situation very easily.
4.Try pursuing your hobbies. I know it’s difficult to persue a hobby when in depression but at least you can try.
5.Try meeting people, going out and having a little time for yourself.
6.Lastly, nobody but your parents can help you out in a way that nobody can. However big the situation is talk to them may be they will get angry at first but they will do whatever to protect you.
Thank you for reading. Hope we take mental health seriously.
I’ve recently dealt with depression. I’ve found, no person, not even a psychologist could snap me out of it. I had this barrier around my head that anything said to me wouldn’t get through me. It was brutal.
But I pushed through it and bacame a stronger, wiser person mostly by my own efforts. Here’s how:
- Diet – I got into the ketogenic diet. FYI, the Ketogenic diet is a low-carb, high fat diet used to treat children with epilepsy back in the 1900’s. It’s extremely promising as it have shown to reduce symptoms of a lot of diseases as well as being effective in shedding excess body fat. After a month on keto, I felt better. My mind was clearer, I was generally in a better mood overall. I also felt better about myself as I can see excess weight shedding off and I had clearer skin. I feel amazing and I would never go back to the way I was eating.
- Mindset – One of the reasons why I succumbed to depression was because of my perfectionism and the grind I put myself into when I was in culinary school. Sure it was passion, but it was toxic passion as I had unhealthy expectations of myself. I sulked when I did poorly in school. Then I stumbled upon Stoicism, a school of philosophy that emphasized on doing your best on the things you control and leaving the things you can’t control alone. It was actually the basis for the treatments currently used in patients with depression, PTSD etc. I changed my outlook, eliminated my expectations and started reading the Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and books with Stoic context in them. It changed the way Ied life, almost completely eliminated my disappointments (which ultimately lead to depression) and kept my about life grounded and realistic.
So, there you go. Those are the two things that made me overcome depression. Sure, you have the friends and family, but when you’re depressed you have a tendency to just hear, but not listen. Every close friend and family member was talking and trying to ask me whats wrong, offering advice and such. It was only until I decided I wanted to change that I actually saw the change.
Let’s understand Depression from the eyes of Biology.
Ever heard of a Parasite? Am sure we all have.
What does it do? It feeds on the nutrients of the other organism.
What happens to the other organism? With it’s lack of nutrient, it succumbs to death.
When the organism is dead, what does the parasite do? It goes on to find a new life-form to suck the benefits out of it.
Well let me tell you something, Depression and Parasite are one and the same thing.
Depression like a parasite, feeds on your happy emotions. It sucks every bit of happiness out of you, making you weak internally and externally. You become a person trapped in their own virtual cage.
There seems no exit. You want to get out of it, but the “Parasitic Depression” is a cocky little bastard, and it just won’t allow you to exit from it. Being cocky, it gives you an urge-a imaginative push-a hope and you feel a sudden surge of Adrenalin. But unfortunately, this surge is just a partial phase. Depression seems to push you for it, to provide it Feed. And once it is well fed, your back to square one.
Depression is worse than any disease in the world!
Well then how do we fight it? I see people resort to inspirational videos, motivational speech. But do they help? Of-course, they do. But only for a couple of hours. You need a push that is undying, that is a strong disinfectant for your “Parasitic Depression”.
So what is this strong medication that will cure this problem?
“The phoenix was injured bad, the shrapnel had pierced deep into her. She could see death and tears fell from her eyes as she all her dear phoenix next to her. As her tears fell on her wound, she found the wound dissolving. How was this possible? It was beyond repair! Miracle was happening. And that day the Phoenix realized that she herself was her cure for every pain.”
Read the above lines and be the Phoenix.
Depression cannot be cured by anyone else but YOU!!!! You can listen to million of speeches, surround yourself with friends, but until your heart doesn’t choose to distance this problem, you are not going to get out of it.
Motivate yourself. It is very important to understand what depresses you. People have come to me and told me that they themselves don’t know the reason why they are. That’s total Balderdash! We all know are reasons for depression, we are just afraid to confront it. Face your fears.
“A lion not always roar to devour a prey, but sometimes in pain.”
Once you know your problem, it’s important to restore normalcy to it. Sometimes the problem is how we are leading our life, or because of someone, but they all have a common conclusion and it is,
“It is important to be Un-Done to know how much Done you are.”
Understand the statement. Whatever you are right now, is not what is making you happy. But does that mean you can’t change? Of-course you can. You were happy once. Can’t you become that person again? Of-course I can.
But how to become that person again?
Pretty easy. What all additions have happened in your life that turned that smile upside-down and made your tears a well always overflowing.
Once you have figured this all out, figure out what you want most. Remove the negativity. Feel hope again. It is the most powerful tool. And you want to know why? Because I once knew a guy who had everything. In one year he lost everything-Lost the love of his life when he was on ship to another person, saw the death of a close acquaintance, Fucked up miserably at his job…in the end lost all hope. He wanted to die. But he choose not to. And kept fighting. Here he is right now writing this article. And you know why I say it? Because I realized one thing and I stand by it Forever,”God is Kind and Hope is a beautiful thing.”
To all you people depressed, You can fight it. And you know why? Cause I fucking trust you.
As a kid we were never taught what is depression. But we were definitely told Life teaches you everything. Amidst the teaching sometimes we just lose ourselves. We lose the very essence of living and life.
I have seen the darkness of depression. So be assured I have tasted it and I know it doesn’t taste good. But it will teach you a lot in its own way. Its not impossible to be trapped in it. and Its not impossible to get out of it.
I keep reminding myself – Do not let your mind drive you, Drive your own mind.
Now you must be like, but mind is sitting at the drivers seat how can you drive then?
Its not the mind who should take the drivers seat. If you let it do that, it will just produce numerous thoughts some important and many waste and would drive you crazy. Eventually making you fall trap to anxiety and depression. Mind is a gadget of its own kind. Let it do its job but don’t let it take control over you. Its you who chooses, what is wrong and what is right.
Here are some things which you can do to get back you control on your mind :
Q. First you need to get over that day long anxiety feeling. How do you do that? By sleeping all day?
A. No. Just get out of your bed. and start engaging yourself in whatever you ever wanted to do ever since childhood(I am sure you had many aspirations). May be you wanted to travel, go and travel. May be you wanted to exercise or go for a run, May be you wanted to write. Do whatever you feel comfortable in. Choose as many activities as you can.
I started writing, Singing, listening to more music, and sometimes drumming too 😛
Q. And what do I do of so many problems in life that are troubling me?
A. Are you able to fix those anyways? You are not. Because right not you are not capable enough. So just forget about the problems, even if it is as big as your career, marriage, relationship, or fear of losing a close one. Its important to patiently tackle any situation. Impatience will lead you to the wrong ways mostly. Give it time. Stop thinking about it too much.
Q. Do I need support?
A. Yes you do. But its not important that you can always get support. If you are alone it does not mean you cannot overcome anxiety. You are capable enough to do everything. Yes it might take more time. But the key is to stop thinking and thats in your hands and not others. The key to overcome depression is realizing that you are wasting your time thinking unnecessary things in life. Most of the thoughts which cross your mind right now are not even important to give attention to. Let them come and go.
If you realize this one thing that peace lies within and no body can get it for you, you will be the happiest person. What you see is what you perceive. So think positive, rest all will fall in place.
I do not say follow me. But I would say if I am able to help you in any way, help others too. I am open to any questions or any help you seek. I can share more if you want me to 🙂
I have fought with depression and anxiety for 10 years and now I am coming out of it gradually. Medicines helped me from panic attacks. Counselling worked lil bit.
I went for alternate healing. As per my birthdate I am a spiritual person, so my alternate healer suggested angel therapy. It worked!!! I m slowly getting out of depression by it.
I was mistreated by my family since childhood. My father raised me when he was depressed. We had a lot of family issues which lead my sister to depression and finally she died because of a suicide. After that, I got little anxious but then after unemployment in recession and my break up I got totally in depression.
If your birthdate doesn’t fall into spiritual being then maybe angel therapy and reiki will not work for you.
I will just tell you what I leart in angel therapy:
1- Forgiveness: Forgive all people who hurt you or wrong you, cut the cord with negative people.
2-Gratitude: Just make a list of 10 positive things in your life every morning. It will make you feel good even in depression and slowly u will understand you have a lot and should not be depressed.
3- believe in god and his miracles. Pray daily. Visit temple atleast a week.
4- Meditation: It helps you to get grounded.
Try Eft tapping also, it helps me to get going.
Few more things which I learnt is
1-make a schedule of the day. Wake up early, go to bed early. Plan your day so that you stop getting depressed and anxious in a tight schedule.
2- break big task into small pieces and do it.
3- Find pleasure in small things. Appreciate yourself in small small things. Give a pat on your back when you complete a project, assignment and cherish it, celebrate by small token, party or gift to urself which will motivate you to do better. Enjoy small things in your life.
Hope this helps,
lots of love and light. Get well soon!
First step- Confront and accept your depression.
Second step- Are you sure you want to overcome it on your own or do you think there is someone who can help you overcome it?
If your answer is former, then first let it out. Isolate yourself and see that you have a room just for yourself and have ample privacy to vent out your depression either through crying, swearing or just any coping mechanism. However strongly refrain from self harm of all sorts.
Once you’ve confronted the reason that gets you depressed try finding out why it depresses you. It could be peer pressure, it could be love failure, it could be a boring life. I get it. But can you answer yourself what got you to be affected to the point of depression? Once you answered it or atleast closely get an idea ,dive into it and see what will happen if you cannot let it affect you.
Say, your friends are well off and party regularly and life a large life while you are pretty grounded and have restrictions. Maybe your taunted with their Snapstories and Instagram posts. How about uninstalling those apps? From personal experience it definitely helps avoiding unnecessary social media exposure that instigates depressing feelings. Find ways you can use that time on some other app or activity of your interest like watching that long overdue TV series, reading some book, trying some new receipe or playing some Indoor /outdoor game.
Did it reduce the thoughts that bug you? Do you feel light headed? Well now you can further lighten up by listening to some amazing music that lifts your mood and probably dance and groove as you feel like. Dance from your heart not mind.
Even more light headed? Well check out some old pictures that bring back some good memories you shared with friends and family. I’m sure you’ll be left smiling the whole time. While doing so you could probably text or call one of your favorite people(s) and catch up and talk, without hiding anything. Literally talk crap too , it won’t matter because the other person is someone your close to, just open up your heart and let it out.
Much more light headed? Well go out now and treat yourself for getting better. But before you end the day with a peaceful sleep and dry pillow , promise yourself to repeat this process next time you feel depressed. Trust me the effect of depression keeps reducing from time to time until you can hardly feel any.
If you chose the latter, that is reach out to a friend/family then you can probably do all this with them in their presence alongside some other ways of recouping together and fighting it back harder.
Sincere request : Do Not get comfortable with your depression and enjoy wallowing and self pitying. It’s more harmful than you think.
I understand that you feel the need to pity yourself as the only sort of pity and empathy you can get but you’re damn wrong. Confessing and confronting are the key to taking yourself out of depression.
Hope it helps. Don’t be ashamed. Ever.
Do you mean to be saved from ever having a depression? No one can guarantee that. So I will assume you have a depression and are looking for a savior or miracle bullet to take you out of it.
Are you looking for a savior? Depression doesn’t work that way. You will have to do something, and work hard, to save yourself.
A miracle pill? Well, antidepressants of different kinds might work in some cases but not in others. And they generally don’t address the basic problems that led you into the depression in the first place, so as soon as you leave them, the depression will come back.
I can only give you very general guidelines about how to deal with a depression, based on my own experience.
In my case I was a strong, healthy and happy 46 year old person, about to start a new and exciting chapter of my life, when I suddenly fell into a deep depression. Totally unexpected and debilitating, and for almost three years I was incapable of working or taking care of my children, or doing the most basic house chores. I could only lie around crying and feeling terrible during the day and wide awake during the night. At one point it became so debilitating that I couldn’t stand being with people. My husband and children had to visit me in my room one at a time and just for a few minutes each.
Until the day it started, I didn’t even believe that depression was a “thing”. I thought it was just som silly stuff pampered people came up with in order to get others to feel sorry for them. Boy, was I wrong!
I was lucky, because I was more or less pressed into psychotherapy by my family but met a very experienced therapist. She started by asking me about my life story, and after a few sessions it became clear to us that I had a lot of things to cry for. There had been several dramatic situations in my life, each of which more than qualified for aquiring a post-traumatic stress syndrome, but at the time they happened I hadn’t had the time nor the means to work through them, so I had just showed the memories and the emotions into a very well hidden corner of my brain. The show must go on. Now all that was coming out because I was in a very safe life situation.
As I see it now, that depression was my mind-body realizing that enough is enough and it was time to mourn and heal from traumas that were 20, 30 and even 40 years in the past, before starting the “new chapter of my life”. Never mind it would take almost three years to heal, as after all it had taken me 46 years to accumulate the pain. And I came out of the depression as a much better person, much better prepared to accept myself and my big and small weaknesses and errors. I am 73 now, and I have never been depressed since.
I think you are doing the right thing by asking Quorans about tips on how to deal with depression. You will get a very broad spectre of answers, mostly from people who have gone through similar experiences. Do a search about depression on Quora, and see what others have written before. The subject comes up regularly, almost every day. You will get an idea about how different depression is for each person and yet so similar.
The next step is to ask for help. You will need som kind of psychotherapy, coaching or mentoring by experienced people as a support. Maybe not all the time during recovery, but as a regular push in the right direction.
It is also important to do some medical testing for possible physical problems that can affect your mood. But do your reseach and don’t take any medical advice at face value. Doctors who have never had a depresson themselves are often not very helpful, they will tend to give you some antidepressant and hope for the best. Even psychotherapists and psychiatrists with little or no experience with depression can easily fall into the attitude that most lay people have: “OMG, not another one of these depressing patients, get over it, you have nothing really serious to complain about!”
And do keep at least a few friends who are willing to listen to you, just listen to your complaints about life, the universe and everything while you deal with the depression. Tell them to just listen, without judging, you are not fishing for answers, only opening your heart. At a point in my treatment I needed to talk almost nonstop, and a dear friend of mine sat patiently for almost 24 hours with me listening to my rantings. It was like heaven and did me a lot of good.
You will have to be brave and muster the courage to take your life up to scrutiny during this process. Therapists, mentors and friends can have a lot of relevant questions, but only you have the answers inside you, however hidden.
I wish you all the best.
A few things:
- If you live near a major university, call them or see what studies they have. Personally, intravenous ketamine and GLYX-13 helped me a lot
- Cold showers / cold plunge is amazing. It stimulates mitochondrial activity as well as dopamine and it helps alleviate depression / anxiety. If you stay in cold water for more than ~30 minutes, you should then hop in a sauna. The variance between hot and cold is extremely good for you.
- Tiny dosages or Adderall (15mg) provided me with a 3–4 hour window of “normality”. Adderall is toxic though so don’t overdo it.
- Tianeptine, an SSRE, helps a lot and is neuroprotective
- High dose Niacin (B3) helps a lot – it’s uncomfortable though because you need the flushing kind. You’ll need to take at least 2 grams a day
- Obviously your diet is super important. Eliminate grains, lectins, dairy and eat a lot of fats (avocados, etc.)
- If you’re taking medications, you should be very careful because many of them are extremely toxic. They have Fluoride, a potent neurotoxin, and are also hepatotoxic (bad for the liver)
- High dose krill oil. Don’t take fish oil because it’s oftentimes rancid. Krill oil is better. If you insist upon fish oil, make sure it has Astaxanthin in it to prevent rancidity.
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