How do you respond when someone is concerned about your health?
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Well, since I’m the healthiest I’ve been in my entire life, if someone is concerned about my health, I’m irritated as fuck. I’m the person going in for follow-ups, I’m the one refilling my prescriptions, I’m the one who goes to the pool almost every day, and they’re concerned?! They can go fuck themselves.
Why and if are important factors in someone concerned for your health. Are they concerned for your health? What is their actual concern? Is this a real concern (e.g.; they’re concerned that you’re diabetic and not checking your blood sugar and you are diabetic and not checking your blood sugar)? Or is this a fake concern (“being fat” isn’t a health concern; a sedentary lifestyle may be)?
If you have multiple health problems and they know about them don’t bore them with things they have heard before. (I’m saying this with multiple serious health issues). Most people are being polite. If it’s someone close to you and you have a genuine concern then tell them, but don’t go on and on. I’ve found that being positive about my health more people ask me, and they know I only tell them if it’s something bad. A lot of people ask how you are without really want to know
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It depends on the person. If it is an intimate or a close friend, I may describe just how I am doing if I think they are genuinely interestrd. However, since my general health is good, I wouldn’t have much to say. I would just put them at ease about their concern. On the other hand, if it is more an aquaintance then a close friend, “I’m fine, thanks” will do perfectly.
i think this song says it all. the woman who wrote it, kim shattuck, who fronted an OC based grunge band called the Muffs, died of ALS last October, shocking everyone as she never went public that she was ill. i think she wrote this song, called “lovely day boo hoo” about her illness and it’s about not wanting a fuss or pity.
“im ok, you’re insane, go away, and be strange, i know you can’t be my hero”
“a lovely day, i try to say, but no one’s listening to me”
and the cover art for that album, imo, is one of the best cover photos i’ve ever seen as it’s the ultimate swan song image. hit me hard when i found out she died cos i was part of that scene back in the day and while i didn’t know her, we’d sometimes be at the same clubs.
see you again one day, kimmy. xx
It depends on the state of your health, how much you care to divulge and your relationship to the person who wants to know.
If your husband or best friend wants to know how it went at your doctor appointment, I hope you can answer honestly and fully.
If a nosy neighbor, boss or co-worker wants to know, you can answer anywhere on the continuum from totally honest to a bit vague.
“I have cancer and need surgery next week” to “It’s about what they expected. I’ll deal. If I need anything, I’ll let you know. Thanks for asking.”
Make clients feel like they’re part of your team.
Give them the context and insight they want to keep cool, while staying excited throughout the process.
If it’s true concern, then I’d be grateful, but if they are consistently invading your boundaries then I would tell them to stop
Etiquette was a very important part of social life in the 1950s and 1960s. The more formal question was “How do you do?”. This asks the person how they are doing. It was a required response to meeting someone for the first time. Today the question used as a greeting is, “How are you?”, “Howya doing?”, “Whassup?, etc. This is called asking after someone. It does not always have to be a greeting, eg, “How’s your mom doing?”
From Merriam Webster Dictionary:
ask after; asked after; asking after; asks after
Definition of ask after: to ask about (someone or something) He asked after my wife’s health. He greeted us warmly and asked after our families.
Here are some other forms of the same concept.
“How did you do on the test?”
“How is your toe doing?”
“How are you getting along with your new boyfriend/girlfriend.”
When a person asks after you or a friend or something else. “Thank you for asking.” is a more formal reply and you do not see it much anymore. “Fine, Thank you” is the common response today and is required for the sake of politeness. Unless they are a family member or close friend, they do not want you to go into detail about all your aches and pains. Remember this is a nicety and you respond with a nicety.
The flip side of asking after is wishing well. This usually is used in a farewell or goodbye. When someone wishes you well it is polite to thank them for the wish. When someone at a fast food window wishes me well, I thank them and return the wish. “Have a nice day.” “Thank you and you have a nice one too.” It is fairly rare that I get a thank you after wishing someone well.
It really depends upon what you said to them and they responded with a “thank you for your concern”.
If you offered condolences for a loss they recently suffered such as the death of a loved one then on your part a proper answer would be “she/he was such a lovely person and I still remember when he/she…..”. Another example would be let’s say their son ended up in jail or they or someone close to them did something that you expressed your concern to them about a “thank you for your concern” is merely a polite way of acknowledging your concern but also letting you know that they don’t wish to discuss the matter any further with you and basically its none of your business. Rule of thumb is if you do make any kind of a comment after they have stated they acknowledge and thank you for your concern and they make no other comment that is your cue to get off that topic onto another or wish them a lovely day and walk away.
Mind you, if whatever you expressed concern about directly effects you or your loved ones you have every right to ask them what kind of resolution they have planned to rectify the situation as you are directly involved, effected by it and deserve more than a simple thank you for your concern whether they like it or not – they need to take responsibility for whatever it is that is effecting you.
Well that’s a question who everyone thinks about… Who is concerned about my health…The answer is pretty simple
First you have got your parents.You get a small cut on your hand and your mom’s like Is it fine?Come here let me apply some antiseptic!
Then we have got your father.He may not show you that he is concerned about it but by the end of the day your dad goes to your mom and asks how you are.I know it’s sweet in a way.
Don’t forget your grandmom!!!She will ask how you are every time you call her and we all know how we all are treated when we go visit our grandparents.We won’t be able to move from the place.We will be over loaded with food and all we have to do the whole day is eat sleep and repeat:)By the time you come back home you realise that you have gained weight…
And then we have got friends…You may all have bestfriends.When I got chicken pox I had my friends come over to see how I was doing and they also got me chocolates.My bestfriend stayed with me the whole time so that I don’t feel lonely.
Basically everyone who is close to you and loves you is concerned about your health.
I’d say “Thank you for your concern,” but it may be that this is not the phrase you need, depending on the situation. If someone has been especially thoughtful or has guided you in some way, especially over an extended period, you might thank that person in a more specific way: “I really appreciate all your thoughtfulness and concern about ___ .”
“Thank you for your concern” is usually appropriate in a one-time interaction. For instance, if someone I don’t know tells me that I have a broken tail light on my car, I might say, “Oh! I didn’t know! Thanks for your concern!” but would not say that to someone who had, for instance, helped me though a difficult time or guided me through a process. I’d thank them for what they had done specifically or say, “I really appreciate your help” or “I really appreciate that you have ___” or “Your [thoughtfulness/help/guidance] has meant a lot to me. Thank you.”
Like most phrases, it depends on how it is said (e.g., facial expression), when it is said and what else was said.
Context! If my father just passed away and I am dealing with so many things. If you approach me to ask if you could help and I answered like that it may mean “don’t bother me now. I have too many things on my mind.” In addition it may mean “I have no time to think of how you could help me”. So it may not mean “None of your business”, it may mean “You figure it out. I have no more brain power to entertain your question.”
In this case, I suggest that you work out what you can do to help yourself or ask his friend (a family member might not always be helpful) how you could help.
If you can’t figure out what to do, don’t do anything. You don’t want to mess things up.
If you are told this and you are a stranger, it may mean just what you specified but it may also be the person is grateful that people would ask after him.